Dossen Takeover Houston Look Du Jour: Day 2 Travel Diary

12/17/16

As I sit in solitude in our hotel room, I compose a blog post of my look today. Mother nature came earlier than expected. I am moody as ever, as I just want to be left alone. In the mix of the wedding preparations, witnessing the wedding hustle, this is not fun at all. Planning weddings should be organized, exciting, and orderly. However that is easier said than done. This why I say I would never throw events for people to enjoy because it's too much work. Yet, I have the dopest ideas for events. Back to discussing this wedding madness, I am just thankful I am not a bridesmaid because the expenses and headache collectively would have brought a different side of Desiree no one would have liked to see. Overall the wedding is tomorrow and I cannot help but to say just await the slay.

Not only thoughts of the wedding occupy my mind but I can't help but to think about how much I miss my significant other. The distance has me feeling hopeful being that he is coming home soon and saddened at the same time. I often think about compatibility and longevity of our relationship. While he's at school it's hard to keep the flame alive in the relationship. I always say how much I would love an artsy, eclectic, intellectual, spiritual man but yet I am thankful and grateful for the strong one I have today. What's interesting is that as women we often want to find our Mr. Perfect, in which he doesn't exist. All of the characteristics and attributes I love I would love to mold into the ideal man. That's not realist obviously. 

With all of this talk of marriage and weddings around me, I think hard about my love life and the future of it. It is important that we work on ourselves individually before moving to the next stage in life. Often times in the African community I witness hardworking men that would marry and wife up young, homemakers, with no drive or ambition. I asked today, "Wouldn't the man want someone to match his level of success?" Even if the incomes don't match but a drive and the passion to work on personal goals? As that is important in any relationship. A drive to be independent and still appreciate what a man does for you is significant as well. It makes me think of the present relationship I am in now. I am ambitious and often times I think that turns my boyfriend off. He hasn't stated that verbatim but I think about it a lot. I am only sharing this because it's been resting in my mind and I guess I am highly emotional. Plus to add the theme of our week, we are here to celebrate love and a new life long union. 

To young women: My girls that are single and in a relationship, please don't lose sight of your passions. A man can do for you and his family as you can still pursue a career, have goals, and have something you can call your own. 

To young men: Believe in your partner and understand that she is more than enough. You don't need Sally at home and Suzy outside. Find it within yourself to know that there is no competition in a relationship. The man and woman are equal. Two can bring dishes to the table that will feed the relationship, no matter the title or role. Respect is key.

I love marriage and unions but it frightens me at the same time. I often think will I be too much for the man, will he accept me for my passions and beliefs. I get caught up in fantasizing about the what ifs and the hopeless aspirations of it all. Love is magical, love is unconditional, love is pure, love is kind. Through it all God is love. I hope you all have a blessed holiday season. Let's spread and exude love and not invite any hate or negativity in. God is Love. If God is within you, love yourself, love your neighbors and love that higher power. Besos. 

Thanks For Reading

-StylistaInMInd